Effective Communication- a way to happiness in life.
Webinar: Effective Communication- a way to happiness in
life.
What is real communication?
Is it just combination of only words, phrases and
sentences?
Do we take care of what we speak in life?
Do you believe over what we speak that we get it back
in life?
Do we justify over what we speak that we do in life?
Do you think that we judge others as soon as they open
their mouth?
Do you believe that we always carry a load of thoughts
in the back of our mind?
Every day we speak a lot and get somewhat the result
of our communication. But we never take it seriously that our communication
skill affects on our happy life. That’s why it is said that you have to think
before you leap. Let me share a story of well-educated lady whose marriage with
rich man led her life to happy and luxurious. Everything was good and luxurious
for her. She had servants and luxurious cars for her. So, she was having happy
life. But one day, she received a call from the hospital and came to know that
her husband was admitted in the hospital because of the brain hemorrhage. Then
she informed her in laws and parents including brother. They all went to the
hospital and stood before a team of the doctors. They said to her that there was
99% no chance for her husband to live. So it was better for her to shift him to
any other hospital or take to home. At that moment, her mother thought that who
would marry her. The father kept thinking that how would her husband be, maybe
drunkard or criminal. And her brother thought when she would get married. But
she thought differently. She called the
team of the doctors and convinced them that they would have 99% no chance but
there was 1% chance for his living. So they could turn 1% chance into 99 %.
Further, she said that they could go better and do whatever they wanted to do
for her husband. Consequently, her husband got well and return his business
happily after two months. So, that was clearly result of effective
communication skill. In a nut shell, we can say that we have to keep ABC of
life. It means Accuracy, brevity and clarity in life. Then we can get better
and happy result in life. However, we don’t know exactly what works or not
works for our happiness in life. Let’s see them one by one.
1) We always keep rackets about self and others: - an
unpleasant loud continuous noise) with others and yourself. We always keep
negative about ourselves, others and happenings. So, it affects on our
communication skill and obviously leads to our unhappiness. All the time, we
carry such load of negative thoughts about self and others. In that we keep
negativity, regret, complain and faults.
2) We always make stories: - lots of excuses we give consciously
or unconsciously. People communicate with us and we make the stories
negatively. We fail to understand what exactly what they want to tell. And we
make negative stories and stick to them. Consequently, we carry negative
communication and fail to produce happiness.
3) Fixed mindset attitude instead of growth mindset: - In
daily life, we unknowingly keep fixed mindset for our lives. Such attitude
doesn’t allow us to go beyond our routine lives. Then we have fixed mindset
which is on our past experience. We never try to change our mindset. It seems
to be difficult for us and live by it and spend miserable life.
Let me give an example an auto rickshaw driver came to
our society on rent and started living there. Last week. A family kept a rented
room in our society. The breadwinner of
the family being an auto-rickshaw driver, he was opposed by the neighbours.
They weren’t ready to allow his auto to park in a street. They resisted him on
his request. Further, they told him that he would be blocking the street road.
On that issue, he agreed but tried to solve it by saying that he would park his
auto after 11 clocks in the night. However, the neighbours disapproved and
displayed their obstinate nature. Still, he asked them what he could do to
bring to end the problem. They didn’t
say anything related to the solution. They only pointed out that he should not
park. He thought over it and consulted with a room owner.
I observed this
incident from my window and came to know about the people and their fixed
mindset. In this incident, having a growth mindset the auto-rickshaw driver
tried to find the solution and also asked for any other way to it. But the
people being fixed mindset didn’t find any possibilities. They weren’t ready to
change.
The same type of
people is seen at school, society and politics. They caused a barrier to the
growth of human being and society. Directly and indirectly, they don’t like to
see any possibilities in daily things. Automatically, they create lots of
problems in the surrounding.
Isn’t it a serious problem?
Which mindset are you having either a growth or fixed
mindset? Do you think that it matters in
life?
4) Gossiping all the times: - Gossiping is a virus and
put us into habituated nature. Consequently,
we make our lives negative and fail to produce happiness.
5) Complaining almost about everything: - Complaining as
“viral misery”. Instead of spreading sunshine and positive vibes, people often
find themselves in a doom-loop of complaints: The weather, sports, politics,
there’s always something to complain about.
6) Lying:-
7) Dogmatism: Mix up facts with their opinions
8) Most of the people speak with mobile instead of their
family members. Further, they always communicate with medicines. They are not
ready to share their sorrow with others. That affects real communication.
But we can train ourselves for positive and effective
communication. Here are some of areas where we have to focus upon them
9) Communicate with authentic and integrity:
Speak authentically, meaningfully and straightforward
without hesitating ex- Mr Narendra Modi's speech on farmer bills and repealed
three laws.
- Don’t see a negative part but a positive one for
everyone
10)
Love people: - Wish people well. You
can’t wish somebody well and simultaneously judge them. By wishing people well,
you raise your vibration and spread joy instead of hate. It makes you positive.
Then you are able to produce happiness.
11)
Keep sharing your
mistakes with others truthfully:-
One of the best ways to make yourself and your life
extraordinary is to accept your mistakes boldly and courageously before the
world without any excuses or hesitance.
- After accepting your wrongdoings, you feel relieved
and relaxed. Then you automatically feel
happy and keep your communication positively.
12)
Develop active
listening :-
Listen to your surrounding people intensively and try
to get what is in there for you:-
- Don’t judge or react while listening to others
intensively, but ask yourself what is there for me?
- Always keep your mind empty before listening to
others. Because you can receive the message well and apply the same at every
level.
13)
Keep growth
mindset instead of fixed mindset:-
14)
Keep activity
of Being, doing and having:-
Who am I?
What am I doing nowadays?
What am I having now for my life and others?
15)
Find and look for positive
in everything and everyone:-
16)
Charity begins at
home:-
6) Assignment for yourself:
Prepare a list of people whom you have insulted or
hurt feelings. Then you can write a letter of apology and accept your mistakes
before them authentically. Do it anyhow.
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